“To get the full value of joy you must have someone to divide it with” ~ Mark Twain
It’s no secret that companionship brings us happiness. However, just how important is it? Can paid companionship be meaningful? Can it lead to a long and lasting friendship? How?
Let’s look at the tangible advantages of companionship and how to create a friendship that’s meaningful and long lasting.
The Benefits of Companionship
The benefits of companionship are increasingly recognised within medical and social care. Companionship has been found to increase cognition, memory and focus. It also decreases our risk of depression and dementia, while boosting our happiness. Dr Karen Roberto, gerontologist, found participants who had several friends reported greater feelings of worthiness, independence and high self-esteem, than those with fewer friendships. If that’s not enough, companionship can improve our physical health. Researchers believe happiness increases our longevity, and have established loneliness as the equivalent of obesity or smoking.
The Importance of Matchmaking in Companionship
Companionship is obviously extremely important to living happy, healthy lives. However, can paid companionship result in lasting friendship? Can it be meaningful?
At Selby Anda, we think so! We’ve studied the science of friendships. It turns out that, apart from regular interaction, common interests are the second factor needed to create a meaningful friendship. Researchers from the University of London have found having the same enthusiasms and hobbies forms the basis for communication. Similarly, social psychologists Carolyn Weisz and Lisa F. Wood have found ‘social-identity support’ – the way in which a friend understands and supports our sense of self in society – accounts for a large portion of meaningful friendships. So, if our companion can relate to your religion, your ethnic group, or your social role (e.g. as a mother or grandmother) there is a better chance of success for the relationship.
How Selby Anda Can Help
It’s for these reasons that Selby Anda’s consultation process considers you or a loved one’s individual personality and hobbies when choosing a companion. In our extensive ‘Friend application’, we ask you to specify if the individual enjoys particular hobbies e.g. playing bridge, poker, rugby or arts and crafts, to determine mutual interests between you and your companion. Rather, than simply viewing a companion as someone to accompany you to different activities, we ask for information about your ideal friend. Are you interested in increasing social activity? Do you prefer companionable solitude? Are there any limitations our companion should be aware of?
It’s clear that healthy companionship plays a huge role in our emotional, cognitive and physical health. We recognise the value that comes from a real and genuine friendship, and aim to fulfil that need through companion care. Find out more information about our services visit here or just get in touch. We’re here to help!